Ericksonian exercise: Conscious / unconscious distinction

Here is a short exercise to increase your flexibility with a certain Ericksonian technique. Erickson used to differences between the consciousness and the unconscious mind. Then he could be a problem in the knowledge and the solution into the unconscious as a framework.

Then he would help them extract an unconscious resource to help solve the problem. But before we get there, it is good, the ability to make to win the difference in their minds between conscious and unconscious.

Step 1: Make differences between conscious and the unconscious mind. Just take the first word or phrase pairs and it the consciousness attribute. Then you take up the second word or phrase, the pairing and it attributes the unconscious mind.

hears, understands
Sore / selects
May or may not understand / respond
relaxed / feels
not necessarily aware of… / learn
thinks / experience

Example: “consciousness hears and understands the unconscious mind.”

Come with your own word or phrase mating, that make sense for you. Will get you where you can go to these distinctions to for a few minutes with without thinking about it. Have fun!

 

Like man smoking in 5 seconds

The other day, I met a man in the jacuzzi. He had stopped smoking 40 years ago and had no cigarette since. Want to know his secret? Would you know how that his secret with your smoking stop customers can help you?

The first, which he spoke was, made a decision as he, and he was not too, that back-no no matter what! He decided to quit smoking. He made it a promise to himself. Too many people put the responsibility for their actions elsewhere. If you smoke (or not to exercise, or do to you something, that you have not decided that do), the responsibility lies with you.

Yes, we all have done it. Me too. But for the future, responsibility means that you accept responsibility for what is in the control. If you choose not to smoke, and then smoke, you are responsible. No one, or otherwise. Who controls the arm, the lifts the cigarette to the lips? You control your arm, don’t you? Lift your arm to the cigarette? Nr has your arm the nicotine life up? Nr has genetics, or your uncle, stress from? No.

But this guy made decision. His decision was that no matter what he would not again-ever smoking. His decision was he smoking would not, unless it was really hard. His decision was not that he, if he wanted a cigarette to smoke would not. His decisions was that no matter what he would not again-ever smoking. And he took over the responsibility that it was up to him.

It happened in 5 seconds? No, I lied. It was faster. It happened in an instant. Everything that follows was secondary to this decision. Explains how we later can bring our customers of this type of commitment.

Just before he had stopped smoking, tried the Lord in the jacuzzi a technique, which he had heard. It was a program where people were forced to smoke several cigarettes in a row. He tried it and joined by a few cigarettes before he realized how bad it sucked, forced, to smoke.

Every time, if he wanted a cigarette, he remembered this feeling!

In other words, he anchored (attached), that bad feeling on the idea of smoking. After a while a smoke have led automatically a bad feeling but.

Let us follow his example, shall we?

(1) Have your customers an irrevocable decision smokers to quit.

We have all had taken an irreversible decision. Find the times when your customers have experienced, and close the same feeling on the idea that those who give up smoking. If you know Submodalitaten and mapping, you can do it this way. You do with this. You do this by you propose it directly in hypnosis. However do to do it!

(2) Add bad feelings of the idea of smoking.

Now, as master of NLP & hypnosis, we should be able, to do as himself a little better. From what I can say was his strategy all mental steps through, which he used to go through to create the desire for a cigarette, and then run the negative feeling. It would be helpful annexes this feeling a little earlier in the process so that he has a cigarette first does not. So, if know, strategy survey and installation, the smoking strategy find out and screws you it on this way.

It is also a good idea, that bad feeling immediately the thought change to a positive feeling connected, have to do something else. Somewhat healthier.

If you learn more about these techniques and/or other techniques, people smoke want to quit, check out stop smoking with hypnosis & NLP: a “How-to” Guide for success

James Borrow

 

Vogt Deepener

A Deepener is a process to deepen trance. Can the Vogt Deepener (it’s a nice) is, or you can customize the concepts is a Deepener for the customer, based on their responses on your induction. The basic idea is that a deepening proposal. You bind the client to some keyword deeper. Take advantage of the best Deepeners gives us and answers that naturally occur during trance to enhance the benefits of this trance.

Vogt is a fractionating Deepener. It deepened repeatedly the subject of trance trance, not only on the proposal, but also on emerging and then they dive again. The deeper they go coming in General, the more people in and out of the trance, as they in-especially go back, if you propose it. Repeated, fast arise then re-inducing trance is called fractionation.

To be more precise, generally you caused someone not fully but bring them a little. You can open their eyes, but not fully, this has resulted in be.

“After a while, I’ll count from 1 to 5.” If I get 5, your eyes are open, but you feel tired and wonderfully sleepy and you find it hard not to close your eyes.

You sleep. The eyes feel want serious, these eyes Flash, and they start to Flash, and you will not be able to stop, and as these eyes Flash, you will be dreamy and drowsier and how relaxed and in peace, the eyes are close and they close.

And you will push much while going to a blissful, relaxing, much deeper than you are.

When I count to five and the eyes open, is not open to keep therefore able, your eyes very long at all because you so very, very sleepy so very, very tired feeling that these eyes Flash. Close your eyes. And you fall into a deep, deep, relaxing sleep.

If you count them, and you get 5, their eyes are open or half-open. This is when you increase which whatever answer you give. When her eyes Flash, you increase. If her eyes half open, you mention it and comment, that they (the eyes) want to close increasingly difficult, and so on. Could you tell something, such as…

“That’s right.” The eyes are blinking, because they feel so tired, so tired, so relaxed. “You feel heavier and heavier as you go deeper and deeper.”

Repeat the Deepener a few times, and most people are pretty freaky!

If you the concepts behind this (or)-are the Deepener, you can your own roles. Here is the basic process…

(1) Set a signal for them to open their eyes (the Vogt applications include, which beautiful and gentle).
(2) Suggest that if they do, they immediately begin with signs of trance (heavy eyes, relaxation, etc.) for more VIP lounge.
3) Lather, rinse, repeat.

Here a small example is different you could use this Concepts…

“In a moment, I’ll be slow to lift your arm.” Like me, gently opens your eyes. Then I’ll be the arm drop-down – and if your arm contacted the Chair, you immediately close the eyes and drop twice as deep in relaxation. “If your arm drops you much, much deeper drop-down.”

 

Frame

A frame can be considered as a way of viewing the world (often in a certain context). Frames are powered by beliefs or constellations of beliefs. We use our frames to move the mind and the world. Our frames to control how we interpret information and how we feel about what happened.

You can control what resources we have available and resourceful as we respond.

For example, someone would have a “poverty awareness” about the possibility of a job. Through this framework, the person may feel defeated try job hunting may not so thoroughly in their job search, because “no good jobs there anyway are”, and may be no confidence in an interview.

Another person a job search ‘ I’m looking for a job who think needs ‘ system catalog view lens. You have a “I need just a job” – attitude. To them it can be, as a whole less material are how many jobs available.

A frame can be more covers than positive thinking. A woman, the one that “All men are pigs” frame, look at the glass as half-full could lead they think “at least I need much bacon.”

A woman, the a “there are good people and not so good men” may be an optimist and think, “I will make sure that I think that one of the good!”

And a woman who is a view that all people are wonderful could no attacker so bad at all.

We have great images (life is good) and small scale (high school basketball is more interesting than per ball). The major influence (of course) wide swaths of our lives.

It is useful to examine whether they are the best images for us our frames from time to time and question. A measure are we the results of experience we want? If this is not the case, we should change our frame.

During the most view beliefs as facts if you think it is probably not true. To the believe in the tooth fairy, right? Beliefs in the course of time to change. I may use them on their, think instead of their truthfulness.

Accuracy has its place, of course. The exact model of the world that you have, the better you understand how things work and that you can get things done!

It is a good idea to check the results, that you always in the most important areas of your life; spiritual, financial / career, health and relationships. Ask yourself, you are getting the results you want? If this is not the case, you think someone will do, as you would like to do. Check their images in this context.

 

Objectives such as beacons

It’s an old saying that goes something like, “you have a goal in mind, someone else for you is set.” It is true. How often have you bought something, you rarely used? How many relationships have you entered, which, as you thought back on what you wanted? How many times have you asked how you ended up where you are?

Many of these can be refer not with set goals and/or not back on them.

If you have set a target in a specific area, you can much more susceptible to external influences. This depends on a lot of advertising. Let us face it – you make everything sound like it the coolest what is in the world.

It reminds me of a friend of mine who has a lot of knick-knack to his place. If he is in a store and he sees something he likes he mentally it is somewhere on a shelf or table in his house, he mentally his bank balance checks and if there is enough in the Bank, he buys it.

What’s missing? Check with his larger goals! While with a target may find a cool place he meets what about his other goals? In particular, which consider its financial goals?

What if some of my friend to set financial goals? Wanted to do what, when he build a secure financial future and saw a certain savings in dollars, which would for him? And what if he knew is like that (pardon the pun) in terms of service, what he broke every year to reach, that must do?

In this case could he see the cool stuff in the store, and questions are, “How is buying this fit in my financial goals?” My guess is that it’s not. The target could serve as a beacon in its decision-making.

If this sounds boring and not really fun there will not be. If you your unconscious mind good instructions feed, yes most of this filtering for you. You have not even think about. Then, you get automatically excited and motivated, when they are displayed things with your goals. And decisions happen easily because we integrated a lamp for your decisions.

Affirmations are good. Self hypnosis is good. The new behavior generator is good. How to set goals with NLP is good. Even just thinking about what it is that you want in the most important areas of your life and write down it can be really effective! I would suggest these categories to a minimum…

 

How to make “Bad” people go away

In my last post, you are the center of the universe I schrieb…

“I was talking with a good friend the other day.” He has a theory about how you attract people in your life. “His theory is that everything that comes in your life some a reflection of the aspect of you.”

I found it very useful to act as if this is true. Why? Now, figure I, if someone me error, they really make me a aspect that show me, which I do not like. The universe is us back to us.

I know. It is a bummer. Plus, it may be not true. But this idea has good results in my life had. A negative emotions that gets triggered by someone does this, because you have that trigger. You are a reflection of the part of you. Their function, their relationship to you, is this aspect of you show.

This is least it seems like a good idea to me, take care of unpleasant emotions, the in your life. Think of it on this way…

One of the ways that things categorized the spirit’s emotions. It seems more emotion, that are included in a context, the more important on the mind. So, really gets your mother-in-law on the nerves, it is important!

Wouldn’t it be nice if you were not important things that were not so beautiful? Do as you do this we? We fix them in ourselves.

If you fix these negative emotions in yourself, emotions can be raised to these people, not more. You are then less important and generally drop your radar. Even if they are still there, do not they will be not so important. You see, relations are systems. When an element of a system changes (that you respond to them, for example), the relationship changes.

 

The trial of self-esteem

We do sometimes hypnotists to strengthen so-called ego. To strengthen the ego, we have a client leader’s past achievements and feel good about it. Then, we can those good feelings of the client current life either in a general way bind, “… and the sounds of the day, remember these achievements”, or to a particular context “If you see that your boss you automatically have memories of past achievements and the good feelings, to go with them.”

The idea is, people who respond to their environment based on their feelings. In general sense can better more resourceful. We use good feelings from the past and include, where they very useful. I think this is good.

So there are two basic goals-to help of clients (or us) feel better and you/us a better performance.

I’m good for me. All in all, even if performance is in a certain context, no matter how I feel, I would feel rather good as bad. And feeling is good a valid therapeutic results. But what is if you want to achieve more? Boost self-esteem in general one good approach? Maybe not.

“We have no evidence, that the promotion of self-esteem (by therapeutic interventions or schools) leads to that found benefits.” “Our results support no widespread efforts to self-esteem in the hope that it will promote even better results.”
Baumeister, Campbell, Krueger and Vohs (2003)

If you want you can do your own research. Me indicates that the extensive resources, dedicated to raising are largely wasted self-esteem in our school system to increase to any kind of performance. You do it is not right or it (IMO) do not work! And the details of schools could apply to other contexts.

Read some of these studies gave me some ideas. I started to step at a time when I felt that I was in a high status. Time, I felt a sense of the Championship. For me, it seemed at that time, I do not refer any sense of self-esteem. In fact, ever thought about me were few and far between. If I thought about myself, it was performance-but in a mostly related to my emotional judgmental way evaluate. It was more that I was doing, where I was and adjustments to make it better.

In my experience when I was in a ‘,’ top state am, the ego disappears. Self-esteem is no consideration.

Recently, I asked a group of 25 people, mentally re time, if they feel believed the Championship. About half reported that I experienced something similar, what something; They had relatively little reference to their sense of value of the task. Their self-esteem with reference to the task point half. Interesting.

Of course, it is quite possible that some of us were unaware, attached like the task of our self-esteem. Also, a feeling of self-esteem also important in another part of the process would have; before we the task, for example. Or perhaps there are many contexts in which a sense of the championship not be called for where self-esteem could play a greater role.

As plant ideas in people’s minds without knowing it

For months the song by Elton John Philadelphia freedom it through my head, and I, did not know why.

There are these violins in the opening of the song… “Dee Dee Dee-Dee-Dee-Dee, Dee-Dee.” Often, I would find this little ditty in my mind in the course of the morning.

This reminds of how we ideas in people’s minds without knowing it, it plants can. I use it resources in clients, avoiding any conscious resistance cause.

Primer is when momentum is shown and subsequent response affects a person. As an example if you the list of words of Wolf and pet cat someone, and then they ask to think with ‘Log’, rhymes are they one word answer “Dog.” A Wolf might someone a dog remember, the word CAT is often together with the word dog and a dog is a common pet. Gets the list of words with other words, the spirit dog can ready.

Primer works largely unconsciously and can take a long time. From wikipedia…

“Unconscious priming effects affect choice of words to a word stem completion test, that long after the words deliberately forget.”
http://en.Wikipedia.org/wiki/Priming_(Psychology)

I believe that the primer in part explains why ambiguity techniques work. As therapists, we say “The ability to see your unconscious” We also say “You unconscious, take the chance.” (Especially if you get the wording perfect). Hear both the spirit and is prepared due to the effects of priming, which accepts messages or even believe that the ideas were of their own minds.

One way to think primer is as an allusion to something. How many ways can you think to point to something? You can think of things in the same category (Wolf/dog). You can phonetic ambiguity (heel / heal) present. You can think words, the rhyme (cure/feeling/real). You can think of things that you in the same place. The list of possibilities goes on…

Primer is particularly useful for people who don’t like how to get there or what to do to Orient. It helps you to introduce an idea in the secret. Their unconscious takes the idea, it’s as if they thought it in the first place.

I’m calling an exercise I like to make the risk game. Risk is a game, which has the categories and the correct answers are always in the form of a question. This mental game uses questions and create categories (among others) capabilities in reference to things-priming.

(1), Think of something that you want to perform a client.
2) Ask yourself, “What is in the same category?”
(3) For the words to rhyme that you want to reach to client with the thing.
(4) See the ambiguity of what is expected to reach the client.
(5), Think of other things you may be in the same place or with the same people/tools/scenario.
5) Find ways to are things in a conversation.

For me and Philadelphia freedom

I had changed recently, I noticed my alarm clock alarms and a morning beeping a rhythm. “Dee Dee Dee-Dee-Dee-Dee, Dee-Dee.” Take the song by Elton John, the first 4 seconds then the under audio listening. I think that you get the idea.